How and why to make friends

As told by a guru, Reid Hoffman, the founder of LinkedIn.

One of the most interesting points in the article is the importance of “weak ties” — those people with whom you’ve got a warm relationship, but you see infrequently:

82% of people found their jobs through a contact they saw only occasionally or rarely… [Y]our good friends tend to be from the same industry, neighborhood, religious group, etc. Consequently, their information is similar to yours — a job a good friend knows about, you probably already know about too.

Also, we have difficulty maintaining relationships with more than 150 people at a time.  Our brains are just too small.

Finally, rules.  I do love rules.

Reid’s rules

In the next day: Look at your calendar for the past six months and identify the five people you spend the most time with — are you happy with their influence on you?

In the next day: Look at your calendar for the past six months and identify the five people you spend the most time with — are you happy with their influence on you?

In the next week: Introduce two people who do not know each other but ought to. Then think about a challenge you face and ask for an introduction to a connection in your network who could help.

Imagine you got laid off from your job today. Who are the 10 people you’d e-mail for advice? Don’t wait — invest in those relationships now.

In the next month: Identify a weaker tie with whom you’d like to build an alliance. Help him by giving him a small gift — forward an article or job posting.

Create an “interesting people fund” to which you automatically funnel a certain percentage of your paycheck. Use it to pay for coffees and the occasional plane ticket to meet new people and shore up existing relationships.

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One thought on “How and why to make friends

  1. This applies to one of my New Years Resolutions: Add one person to my life I like. Cut one person out I don’t.

    *not on facebook. in real life.

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